What interests me most at this phase of my life is the way I talk to myself through my body, not through my mind.
We learn to communicate with our mind and our voice, and we think that talking is communication.
Communication is only about listening. It’s not about talking at all. It’s only about listening and when we are really communicating, we don’t have to say anything. We can feel everything instead. When the channel of communication with our body is open, we feel: the energy in the air, we feel our physical sensations, our emotions and we enter a space, where we can listen to everyone and everything, in a completely different way.
We class ourselves as human beings, forgetting that we are still creatures of nature, with all the endings of our nerves ready to process every input. As we develop from childhood to adulthood, we leave that connection to the body behind, slowly and sometimes painfully. We chose the mind and the voice. And we think it’s the only way. We forget to listen to ourselves. We don’t even listen to what the other person is saying: before they even finish their sentence we have already assimilated a reply in our mind. There is this strong urge to talk back, to use our voice, either to fight back or console. This is when disconnection is mostly apparent.
When we disconnect from our body, we disconnect from that deep sense of safety and trust in ourselves. Just from a thought that the information coming from my body is neither safe or enough. I just think we have forgotten how to interpret the information our body gives us. As babies, our body was the only means we had to experience the world. Our mind and all our mental functions would develop long after our birth. The physical sensations and emotions were our only true guide.
Somehow, in the process of growing up, we stopped speaking that beautiful language. We stopped trusting its subtle signals, its refined warnings, its exhilarating insights. As we were growing up, our teachers taught us that some emotions and some sensations are not accepted and should not be expressed. So, whenever an emotion or a sensation that was once judged as wrong surfaces, we feel uncomfortable, unsafe, we disconnect from our body and turn to our mind for guidance.
But, I know that our safety lies in listening to our body. And I know that our breath is a way to reestablish that connection.
We can connect with somebody from a place of safety or we can just talk to them or with them and produce no connection at all. Because in order to connect with someone, and share real things, we need to connect with ourselves first. And in order to connect with ourselves we need to connect with our body.
We need to remember that forgotten language.